Change Starts With You


I have a pet peeve and it is people who never take responsibility for themselves. They are always the victim. They are always free of any wrong doing. They are always being picked on. They are always perfect. The funny thing is, no matter where they go or whoever they are around, they have the same problems. The world is clearly out to get them though.

This makes me want to scream! Not once do these people ever seem to look in the mirror and say, hhhhmmm, maybe I should do this or that. Nope. They just point fingers. It must be everyone else’s fault.

I have known people who had shitty things done to them: harassment on the job, sexual assault from a loved one or horrifying events from war. I am talking about huge life events that can change a person from the inside. Yet, these people didn’t let these experiences define them. They didn’t use them as their crutch or their excuse (though it may have very well been justified). No, they knew the situation sucked and that they could not change it. All they could do was work on themselves. They worked hard on moving on, getting help or removing themselves from the situation. They did what they could do and that was to let go of the past and improve their future.

So when I hear people in the world go on and on about how they cannot be held responsible for what they did because of this or that, I want to lose my mind. It is not the president’s fault you hit someone. The government did not cause you to get a genetic disorder. Your mother’s lack of discipline does not mean you are free to break the laws because you never knew right from wrong. The horrific sexual abuse you endured as a child does not make it acceptable for you to abuse other children. The fact that your boss follows up with you on assigned tasks is not harassment-it’s called followthrough and work. The fact that you grew up in poverty does not give you the right to steal. Your PTSD or religious rage does not give you the freedom to attack people…

I know that is a range of topics there, but it seems there is a growing issue with finger pointing. I am not making light of the issues that can effect people. Some of them are very real and can be very debilitating. I can sympathize with people who are struggling. However, I am talking about those people who abuse the systems in place that are meant to help those who really need it. I am talking about those people who cling to an issue and let it define them and use it as their excuse for every little thing in their life. I am talking about those people who never take any responsibility for their own life.

They are the eternal victim and play that card every chance they get. And don’t put words in my mouth, this is not about one type, sex, race, religion, culture, or age. It is about EVERY person across the world who refuses to take action in their own life. It is about EVERY person who cannot admit they did something wrong. It is about EVERY person who plays into the politically correct culture to use services and benefits they honestly don’t deserve. It about EVERY person who is perfectly capable of moving past their challenges to improve their life, but decides that is too hard and it is just easier to blame the world and expect the world to bow at their feet and serve them.

Like the Jim Rohn quote about says, “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”

Amen Mr. Rohn! Amen! Now just imagine what the world would look like if EVERYONE took responsiblity for themselves and actually tried to help others….

Sadly, I don’t even know if that is possible .