Traditions are a critical part of life. They can be part of our family, religion or career field and cover anything from the clothes we wear to the food we cook to the things we say.
My family didn’t really have a lot of traditions when I was growing up. However, the great thing is, I have been able to find and create my own over the years.
When my kids were young, we moved a lot due to the military. That was hard for the kids. (Heck, that was hard for me too.) Changing schools (or jobs for me) and friends every few years takes a toll. Adjusting to new places was always a challenge. Therefore, I tried to make our home consistent. Of course, I didn’t really have a strategic plan to do it. I just felt the need to. Doing certain things during the year, became regular, like little customs. Those things grew over the years and seemed to offer us a sense of comfort, which is exactly why traditions are important, according to Susan Lieberman. “Family traditions counter alienation and confusion. They help us define who we are; they provide something steady, reliable and safe in a confusing world.” In hindsight, that makes sense. I just can’t say I had a thought-out plan back then, I just did it. Funny how we just naturally do things that it can so easily be explained by complete strangers.
It all makes sense though. Out of confusion and change, I sought comfort by creating regularity. Of course, our traditions grew and changed over the years and varied depending on the ages of the kids and the time of the year, but overall, there were regular events.
Spring would always bring my home flowers.
Summer demanded some kind of trip, even if just for a weekend.
Fall required pumpkin carving and pie making.
Christmas would not be Christmas without hard-rock candy and no bake cookies.
My mom used to make cinnamon rock candy and no-bake cookies every Christmas. Now, if I don’t, my kids are upset.
All of these little things brought us stability in our hectic crazy world, and gave us wonderful memories. Well, I know they did for me, I suppose only time will tell with my kids though. Since they are both still in high school and college, it may take time for me to find out just what their fondest memories are. However, I do know a bunch of them now, and as time passes, we will make more.
And, with them expanding their wings, it means my personal traditions will have to be tweaked too. I may not have any little ones to cook for each day anymore, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t cook and bake. I just may need to do it in smaller quantities (or need to share with coworkers). And, as I rediscover myself in this stage of my life, I find that I am making new traditions just for me. For example, for the last few years, my fall traditions have included Octoberfest festivities, a half marathon and some kayaking.
Not all my new traditions are big either. One of my simplest and favorite traditions is getting sushi when I go to the commissary (military grocery store). Nearly every time, every visit, I get that snack and it just give me a sense of calm. (And it is just frankly good sushi!)
Overall, I think these traditions gave me a sense of peace. They brought me joy, something to look forward to regardless of any stress happening then. They were, and remain, little reminders that my life is in order. I am ok. And all is right in the world, at least my little part of it anyway.
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For Sally D’s Mobile Photography Challenge ~ Black and White (with a few color bonuses).
View other entries for this week’s challenge:
http://helpalongthepath.com/2015/11/16/the-kitchen-sink-sally-ds-mobile-photography-challenge/
https://decocraftsdigicrafts.wordpress.com/2015/11/17/sally-ds-mobile-challenge-lines-and-chairs/
http://luciledegodoy.com/2015/11/16/sally-ds-mobile-photography-challenge-black-and-white-6/
https://shareandconnect.wordpress.com/2015/11/17/black-and-white-tuesday/
https://zimmerbitch.wordpress.com/2015/11/18/sally-ds-mobile-photograhy-challenge-black-and-white/
Love this! I’ve spent my adult life creating traditions because — like you they were largely absent from my childhood. My son is on the cusp of adulthood and leaving home, and I’m wondering how to remake our traditions so that they will still provide us with some sense of stability and comfort. You have eloquently put my thoughts into words.
Thank you for the ping-back too.
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Oh thank you so much for that comment. That means a lot, really. I am glad you can relate to it, and good luck with your tradition tweaking. 🙂
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Thanks so much.
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Michelle, I really enjoyed your post. And we make no-bake cookies as well! It was a tradition from my husband’s family, but when I first made them, he wondered what they were. His sister made them about four times larger. 🙂 We like them smaller and that way we can eat more. I also love them frozen
janet
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I LOVE those cookies. So hard to not eat like 12 of them in one sitting. Wait. You eat them frozen??? I may have to try this over Thanksgiving!
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They’re great frozen! Try them and let me know what you think.
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I definitely will! I told my son I was going to make some soon and he was skippy around, lol. Guess I better make them VERY soon.
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Thanks for the stories about how rituals have given you an anchor in life. The images add much to the narrative. Happy Photo Challenge.
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Thanks Sally! It was my pleasure for sure. I do enjoy your challenge. Now, off to try and read others blogs too. I just need more time in the day!
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Indeed…
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